Posted: Sun Aug 15, 2010 9:20 pm Post subject:
Relationship problem.
Subject description: You tell me if this is messed up or not.
Before I say anything, I'm going to say that my girlfriend and I are over, as in, she's now my ex. I just want an opinion from you guys because apparently, I'm wrong. I'm going to use names, but they're fake.
So, her name was Holly. I've known her for... Forever. I was in love with her, convinced that she was "the one." Her and I had been arguing a lot recently, over everything really. Last night, she broke up with me. A lot happened. I didn't sleep at all.
This morning, she sounded terrible. I talked to her, and it went okay... She told me she just needed some "time away." I understand that, I had been thinking the same thing. I asked how she was holding up, so forth.
Here's the important part. Her best friend is a girl named Alex. Alex is dating a guy named Jake. I overheard Jake calling Holly "sexy, gorgeous," and so on. He then openly admitted that he liked her. Since then, she's been all over his dick. I think Alex just got screwed over by two people who are very VERY close to her.
I told Alex after finding out that neither Holly or Jake were going to tell her. Jake flipped shit, and threatened to kill me. Not going to happen, I promise. If anything, it's the opposite. Holly told me that it's none of my business. O_o Really? Excuse me for trying to be the only decent human being in the situation, and FYI, it is my business.
Alex doesn't know yet, she's currently in jail. But I left proof for her to see (don't worry about that part).
Now, Holly is trying to apologize, but I won't take an apology as an answer. I told her to leave me be, I need time to think. I really don't know what to make of all this, but I know it's fucked up. Holly keeps trying to tell me I'm wrong.
I want opinions on the matter, what do you think? Fucked up or not? _________________ Okay, my signature was starting to annoy even me. QUICK_EDIT
She's a stupid cunt. Accept it and move on. Your life will be better for it. _________________ KGR | AT
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I'm just confused as to why people are so fucked up, and tell me that I'm the one who's wrong. Like it's okay to be a whore... _________________ Okay, my signature was starting to annoy even me. QUICK_EDIT
she stepped across the line man, the trust you had for her is now gone and cannot be replaced. She screwed up and she knows it. Forget her! I know women like her and they NEVER change, they will do it again. It's her loss not yours, she screwed up not you.
There are tons of trustworthy women looking for someone to love, go out and get'em QUICK_EDIT
Bottom line is, it's your decision. If you feel that much for her and If you feel there's a chance of resolving this issue and repair the relationship then by all means do it. Personally I think you would be setting yourself up for failure but I dont know anything about her to make a true assumption. But I do know that the majority of women who pull this type of action usually do it again. But like I said it's on you, Good luck bro. QUICK_EDIT
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Posted: Sun Aug 15, 2010 10:39 pm Post subject:
That's really fucked up dude.
Sort of like when My ex Jessica started drinking and doing hard drugs, and then left me because she wanted the summer to herself with "no commitments". When I tried to get her out of the drugs, she would only yell at me, so I told her that I didn't want to be a part of her destroying her life. Two weeks later, I'm a "douchebag" and a "waste of time"... Because it's totally my fault</sarcasm>.
Just hold tight. Something better comes along. I mean, look at my example. Now I'm with My Miranda [Pic for those who don't have Facebook], and she has been simply amazing to me. Helped me get over Jess and got things back on the right track.
You just gotta hold out until someone better comes along. TRUST ME. IT WILL HAPPEN. _________________ "Reality is a lovely place, but I wouldn't want to live there." -Adam Young QUICK_EDIT
Hopefully. It's hard, she just called me and explained where's she's coming from. I still don't know what's going on with her. Also, she still told me that I'm wrong. But, we didn't scream at each other this time at least. It's really hard when I don't know if I can trust her anymore, especially when I've got enough on my mind conflicted with myself.
And daTS, you're a lucky one haha (bro compliment). _________________ Okay, my signature was starting to annoy even me. QUICK_EDIT
See, when you have a self-righteous. scared and un-accepting person, like this Holly of yours, and especially the ones who do that shit, obviously, they're less open and believe in what they think is right more than anyone else.
It's in this type of social problem where you really wont take an apology, no matter how many times they say it.
People like these really ztyping disgust me, I hate the majority of society because of people like this Holly and Jake. _________________ Please, I DON'T read the signature rules of the forum. QUICK_EDIT
Ever thought that she might be scared as well? Try being a bit more open, explain her again. If she goes up and acts like a cunt, give up and use a baseball bat. QUICK_EDIT
Hopefully. It's hard, she just called me and explained where's she's coming from. I still don't know what's going on with her. Also, she still told me that I'm wrong. But, we didn't scream at each other this time at least. It's really hard when I don't know if I can trust her anymore, especially when I've got enough on my mind conflicted with myself.
And daTS, you're a lucky one haha (bro compliment).
look don't listen to everyone else bad parts, but i agree that you must move on. but not staight away otheriwse you make mistakes so just take your time and when you feel its the right time go for it.
here they just young.
Me young? not so. I have had... err more then 3 girl friends and not because i did wrong. It just wasn't for me. Some times shit happens. People do things because: shallow, rude , cheater, whatever.
The truth is it happened. If she wanted you back she would come back.
bottom line is: We all don't like moving on. but it happens. i'm not going to make it better because i know it hurts like knivies in the cheast. one will be there for you, you just need to look. your young boy so that is a good thing use it my friend. Only that you do, is. The right thing. _________________ Link to a document to see what mods i have and/or working on or working with
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Posted: Mon Aug 16, 2010 5:47 pm Post subject:
Sorry to here this, brosef.
I must agree with some of the others here: move on. I say this because if this much trouble has been caused from a self-righteous attitude about a bad situation, then perhaps she is not the best thing for your right now.
If she really does infact want you again, she will come crawling back
...don't let her in the doggy door. _________________
I should let you know that I asked many, many more people than just you guys, I needed a wide range of opinions and/or suggestions. Didn't really change my mind on anything, but I wanted to see what everyone else thinks.
Alex is actually becoming a good friend, I'm surprised. There's another girl who's interested in me (NOT Alex), and I'm still considering if I want to talk to her or not in a more-than-friendly way. I'm still rebounding. _________________ Okay, my signature was starting to annoy even me. QUICK_EDIT
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